We provide a positive environment for all children in East Lyme and Salem, CT, looking to play and enjoy the game of soccer.

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The ELSA sponsors youth soccer where kids in our community can learn to play soccer in a positive and constructive environment that emphasizes fun, friendship, fair play and sportsmanship. Our mission is to enhance all participants’ enjoyment of their soccer experience. To better achieve this goal we are outlining a Code of Conduct for all of the parents, coaches and players involved in ELSA. The Code of Conduct is a written contract between the parents, players and coaches to abide by the rules and regulations of the game, maintain a cooperative attitude and decorum in all venues, and uphold the ideals of fair play and good sportsmanship. This contract is more than just paper; it is the essence of our goals and objectives as a club and therefore adherence is of primary importance. This document is consistent with rules and guidelines of CJSA and USSF, and the best practices of other similar youth organizations in the State of Connecticut.

All Parents/Guardians and Spectators shall:

  • Remember ELSA games are played by children and often refereed by children
    and adults that coached or played for ELSA – they are YOUR neighbors:
  • Cheer for all players on the team, not just their children;
  • Cheer for and show sportsmanship to the opposing team;
  • Refrain from any coaching from the sidelines -– leave the coaching exclusively to the coaches;
  • Make no comment(s) to, or approach referees before, during or after matches; Register any concerns about referees ONLY to the team coach or manager and AFTER the match; It’s a difficult job and mistakes will happen so please understand that and support our referees;
  • Refrain from any abusive behavior, verbal or physical, or foul language;
  • Contribute to the ELSA through volunteering for jobs at the team or Club level;
  • Support the Code of Conduct by setting an example and encouraging good conduct by others;
  • Make every effort to get your child to and from practice and games on time

All Players shall:

·       Aim to attend every practice and game. If you cannot make a game or practice it is your responsibility to promptly inform your coach;

·       Listen to their coaches, work hard and give their best effort;

·       Respect the coaches and players of the opposing team and display good sportsmanship at the conclusion of a game;

·       Respect the game officials and refrain from addressing them or commenting on their decisions during or after the game;

·       Accept success and failure, victory and defeat, and respect the rules of game

·       Provide support and encouragement to their teammates;

·       Refrain from any criticism or abuse of other players, referees or coaches;

·       Refrain from using bad language;

·       Refrain from spitting on the field;

·       Not engage in dangerous or aggressive play, including fighting;


All Coaches shall:

  • Focus on soccer skill development and teamwork and not just on winning;
  • Provide a supportive, positive and constructive environment for each player to learn the sport of soccer;
  • Set a good example of leadership and good sportsmanship for players and all spectators as a representative of the ELSA;
  • Refrain from criticism of referees and shall discuss refereeing issues only at half-time or after the match;
  • Start and end practices on time



Currently, the Connecticut Junior Soccer Association guidelines, in conjunction with the ELSA, set a minimum standard of discipline that is expected of players, coaches and spectators. It is up to ALL of us; players, coaches, parents and administrators that violations do not occur. Any questions or disputes concerning the violations of this code of conduct as listed below can be brought before the ELSA Board of Directors.

Player Conduct

  • Ejection for Violent Conduct - Serious Foul Play and Foul or Abusive Language by an ELSA player. If, in the opinion of that player's coach or upon receipt of a red card by a referee, it is definitely warranted then the player can be suspended from participating in a second game. Currently CJSA requires a player to sit out at least one scheduled game. The coach may decide to extend the number of games the player is suspended based on previous history or on the action taken by the player.
  • Caution For Dissent –This is issued to an ELSA player for dissent and, if in the opinion of the coach it is warranted, then the player will be removed from the game and not return for rest of the game. If the warning is issued in the second half of the game, then the player must sit out the first half of the next scheduled game.
  • Abuse - Players who are abusive of coaches, other players (including teammates) or the referee may be banned from attending matches for one week (at least one game) if their coach so desires. Coaches may also recommend further sanctions at an inquiry of the ELSA Board of Directors. (Note that in both the above situations, the word "warranted" is used to give the coaches the ability to make their own judgment as to the appropriateness of the call and the circumstances surrounding the infraction.)

Parent / Spectator Conduct

  • Any parent or spectator who is ejected from the game by the referee will remove themselves from the sidelines and area immediately. He/she will be banned from attending games for at least one week (at least one game) and can be banned longer if so determined by an inquiry of the ELSA Board of Directors.
  • Parents/Spectators who are abusive of coaches, players or referees may also be banned from attending matches for one week (or at least one game) or longer if so determined by an inquiry of the ELSA Board of Directors.
  • Parents/Spectators are not allowed on the playing field at any time before, during or immediately following a match unless a Coach or referee needs them due to an injury. Any parent/ spectator that enters the playing field will be asked to leave the game, and a report will be forwarded to the ELSA Board of Directors.



  • The conduct of all coaches during practices and games are subject to annual review. In the instance of an apparent violation, any inquiry and review by ELSA Board of Directors will be conducted and if merited, and depending on the severity and circumstances of the infraction/violation, disciplinary actions will be taken that range from verbal/written feedback, to warnings, and/or outright ban or removal as coach.
  • Any coaches ejected from a game by a referee must remove themselves from the sideline immediately and cannot participate in their team's next match.


Coaches’ Code of Conduct

A coach’s primary responsibility is to make sure that his/her players have fun, develop as soccer players and to instill in them a passion for the game.

The performance of coaches is not measured in wins and losses, but rather in what players learn in terms of technique, sportsmanship, and fair play.

Coaches are charged with the responsibility of controlling their players and parents at all times during a match.

Coaches lead and teach by example; our players will be a reflection upon the coach.

We will:

  • Use positive reinforcement when dealing with players.
  • Never use foul or abusive language and never abuse a player mentally, verbally, or physically.
  • Have respect for the authority of the referee, our opponents on match days and the officials of their club.
  • Teach your children the rules of the game, fair play, and proper behavior.
  • Develop your child’s technique and their decision-making ability.
  • Inspect the playing area for hazards and generally make practice sessions and matches as safe as possible for your children. You should be aware, however, that soccer is a contact sport and your child may be injured. If this happens, we will provide first aid and seek medical/dental care if warranted.
  • We will not allow a child to take part in a practice session or a match if he/she is injured.
  • We will not leave a child unattended at a practice session or a game.
  • We will only allow a child to leave a practice session or a game if a parent or designated adult collects them, unless we receive expressed WRITTEN permission for your child to leave on their own.
  • We will aim to be enthusiastic even in the most trying of circumstances.
  • We will try our best to make the game enjoyable for everyone who takes part – players, opponents, parents and spectators.